I don’t know about you but I find birthdays as a single woman a little bit difficult. If I am really honest.

I said to someone another birthday as a single girl, not married and no children.


But something really amazing happened on Friday my birthday, I actually realised how blessed I am.

It was one of my favourite birthdays.

I went to work and as you know I work as a school chaplain, I had such a lovely day. We had assembly and the whole school sang Happy Birthday to me. It was such a great start to the day.


Then I just realised I have so much to be thankful for.

I received a beautiful bunch of flowers there was a birthday cake and lots of laughing.

Friday night I celebrated with my family and that was really special. I loved having my nieces and nephew there to help me unwrap presents. I loved the excitement they feel when they go and help get the cake ready. I love how birthdays are so exciting to them.


I feel really blessed at the moment.

We can go around focusing on what we don’t have or we can look around and see what is in our lives.

I can sometimes focus on what I don’t have, but when I look around and focus on what I do have my world becomes bigger.

I know that it happened, on Friday my world became bigger. On Friday, my focus changed about celebrating birthdays. My focus shifted into a much healthier way of looking at birthdays.

What is something that you can focus on, what is one thing that you can say that you are blessed.

Celebrate life, embrace life.

You are important.






Be Kind To Yourself

Be Kind To Yourself


In my last blog I talked about recovery and that recovery is possible.

Recovery is a journey it is not one straight line and that is okay.

I love the story in Mark 5:25-34 it is about a woman who had been unwell for a while and needed a miracle. She knew that if she just touched Jesus she would be healed. I admire this woman she had, had enough of being unwell. She put her faith into action and was healed.

It took a decision for her to realise that she had enough of being unwell. She also had to make her way to wear Jesus was and to push past the crowd. I wonder what she was thinking as she did this, I wonder if she was nervous or excited. It must have taken all of her energy to reach out and touch Jesus clothes. She had faith.

The part that encourages me and helped me was when He said to her “Daughter, your faith has made you well. Go in peace and be healed of your affliction.”


This scripture encouraged me in my recovery, I wanted to be a woman of faith.

Now I was not healed instantly, mine was a journey of discovering who I really was. I am okay with my recovery journey, it is my unique story.

Recovery looks different for everyone, so let’s not compare our journey with others.


You are you. You are created for a purpose on purpose.

Your journey of recovery is yours to explore, to realise that you are a gift and to trust and have faith.

So be kind to yourself, every day is a new day.

Do something nice for yourself.

Buy a nice journal and a lovely pen and write draw.

Maybe buy yourself a nice perfume and wear it every day.

Remember these words-

“Daughter, your faith has made you well. Go in peace and be healed of your affliction.”






Recovery Is Possible

Recovery Is Possible




John 10:10

The thief does not come except to steal, and to kill and to destroy. I have come that they may have life and that they may have it more abundantly.



I love this scripture it has been on my heart for a while, it makes me think about life and living it to the full.

Think about this for the moment, imagine yourself living life in freedom without an Eating Disorder controlling everything that you do.


What would that look like for you and how would that feel?

It will be different for everyone.

I have been thinking about this for a while and I am so passionate about helping and seeing women break free from this illness.

I have been thinking what can I do?

How can I make a difference?

Is it at all possible?

Yes, I believe that it is possible, you can have freedom, you can have a beautiful life.

Maybe you haven’t thought about what life would be without an eating disorder, but just think about it.

Take some time to think about it, pause for a moment.

Over the next few weeks I really want to look at recovery and to realise that recovery is possible

I am going to share some things that I did to reclaim my life.

I hope that you can join me in exploring that recovery is possible.




Please look after yourself-

If you need help please see a professional, you really do need to see someone that specialises in this area. I would encourage you it takes a team.



In The Shallows

In The Shallows




Do you sometimes feel like you are staying safe in the shallows?

I love going to the beach but I am not a confident swimmer at all. It also takes me a while to walk out into the water especially when I can’t see the bottom. Everything that touches my leg I imagine that it is some sea creature trying to attack me. I feel a lot safer when I am near the shore and closer to the edge.

I know that if I venture out from the shore that I am really going to enjoy my time. I am also going to become braver the more I have confidence in the whole experience.

It made me think about parts of my life and am I still wading in the shallow?

I think that some parts of my life for me I am walking in the deeper part of the ocean.  I love my job and what I am able to do and have seen such growth in the communities that I work in.

There are others areas that I do need to be a bit braver with.

So I want to let go of the shallows I want to run into the water laughing and smiling.

Is there something that you have been wanting to do but are still wading in the shallows? Do you need to have faith and try something new?

I love the beginning of months and for October I am declaring this Adventure Awaits.


Adventure Awaits

Write down four adventures that you would like to have this October-

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Take your time to fill out the above.  Print it out and place it somewhere that you are going to see it often maybe on the fridge on the bathroom mirror whatever works for you.

Now for some accountability if you need it, if you are brave why don’t you share one so that we can encourage each other.

I am ready to venture from the shallows.